Unfortunately, you are aware the tragic event which occurred yesterday in Aurora Colorado when a gunman opened fire in a crowded movie theatre. There are numerous tragic and traumatic events which occur across our country (and around the world) and at times, children may be witnesses to these events. With that being said, how do you discuss these tragedies with a child? I think the most important thing to remember when talking to a child about a trauma or tragedy is to use words that are appropriate for the child's age and vocabulary and to acknowledge your own feelings as well. They need to know that you too were scared, sad, upset or anxious about the event. Ask them how they felt and listen to the words that they use as you may use those words again when talking to your child. While every child is different you can often follow their cues as to how much and how detailed a discussion to have, and when and how to bring the topic up again. Some children are talkers and want to discuss things at length, while others may be quieter and take some time to absorb the information. Don't force the discussion. A parent knows their children and the discussion may/will be different for each child and will be further impacted by their ages. For young children, it is also important to let them know that Mommy and Daddy are there and will take care of them and protect them, but at the same time bad things sometimes happen. That is why parents take precautions and are responsible (like holding hands when crossing the street, or wearing a helmet etc).But, if something does happen it is so important to validate your child's feelings while at the same time teaching your child coping skills and resilience. If your child does view a traumatic event it is not unusual for them go through a period when they are afraid of separation, or have nightmares etc. They sometimes develop somatic complaints like tummy aches, headaches, and non specific complaints of I just don't feel well. This is normal, but you should watch for a child who seems to be stuck with symptoms long after the event. In some cases a professional therapist may be helpful. Lastly, don't let them revisit the event. By that I mean keep the TV off for awhile, and monitor the internet so they are not watching constant images of the same event (like the falling of the twin towers on 9/11). With so many amateur videos of traumatic events being shown on screen 24/7 if your child sees these images over and over, it is as if they are reliving the experience each time. It sometimes may feel as if we become addicted to watching it. It was nice in the olden days when there were not constant images on screen to remind us of a picture that often fades in our own minds. Our prayers go out to all the families grieving at this time.